An adoption, in pictures...

I've been accused of not putting enough pictures on my blog...which is true...I guess I'm lazy like that...so I'm going to attempt to tell our adoption story, up until now...in photos. Enjoy. :)

this is the picture that started it all <3

We inquired about Xenia in mid-December, we filled out commitment papers through Reece's Rainbow, found a homestudy agency and made an appointment, and drove all the way to Chicago to get birth certificates and copies of our marriage license all before Christmas.

While we were there...we applied for our passports!

Then a few weeks later...

One step closer!!

Finally our homestudy date came!

 It went off without a hitch, maybe because we fed the social worker...

Fast forward a few weeks, and we have a completed homestudy in hand! It's time to start paying some people! Here is a pic of our fee schedule.

You probably can't read that...but take my word for it, international adoption is pricey! We needed some money! So, we did some fundraisers! We had a Maggie Moo's scoop night that raised $360 including donations! 

We called the local paper and asked them to help promote our fundraiser, and we made the cover of the paper!

We sold candy bars, well...Dylan sold candy bars, and made $74!!!

We sold wrist bands that say "Love Conquers All" (our blog name) and made $750!!

While we were fundraising, people were also generously donating to our FSP/chip-in and also I was making and selling hairbows and other crafty stuff. We made over $1,000 at our local flea market over the course of 2 months thanks to the amazingly sweet manager donating a slot to us!

I also need to give a shout out to the lovely Adeye Salem for hosting a giveaway on her webpage www.nogreaterjoymom.com that featured our princess. We received around $400 in donations because of the exposure Adeye's page brought, PLUS my awesome cousin donated through the page and ended up winning one of the prizes! A $250 visa gift card which she donated to us!!! We used the card to buy all the supplies for the bows I make, so between the $1,000 I've made at the flea markets and the nearly $1000 I've made off of our facebook page and other sales...that $250 has put about $2000 into Kenzi's adoption fund! Whoo hoo!

So, back to the paperwork...while doing ALL these fundraisers, we were paper chasing something fierce as well!

USCIS application: $890 (including fingerprints)

Completed Adoption Training: $120

Then the real fun started: completing our preliminary dossier!! It was actually really easy to be honest, we had to send our home study, and some photos of our home, neighborhood, and family...so it gave us an excuse to FINALLY get some quality family photos! (Thanks Amber!)

along with the photos and homestudy, we had to fill out, sign, notarize, certify, and apostille a ton of stuff. Have you ever seen an apostilled document? I'm sure these, like my kids, are extremely over photographed...but these are the best shots. :) This is what 5 months of blood, sweat, tears, fears, and sleepless nights looks like:

And then you're forced to put what you feel like is your entire life into a little FedEx envelope and send it away. Without signature confirmation. You think that this is the scariest feeling in the world. But then weeks later you're forced to mail your passports to a stranger and all you can do is hope that they get there safely, then get back to you safely, with correct visas in them. Oy vey.

So, now we wait!!! Our FedEx package arrives safely at our agency (woot!), then it arrives safely in our kiddo's country (double woot!!), it's translated, it's submitted and then....we get travel dates!!!

Then everything is a blur...because it's so recent, and so fast, and so problematic...I'm just going to post a bunch of pictures that might get the point across! The reason why things are nuts is, in my opinion, the number of people involved! You have to contact this person to release your funds, that person to book your plane tickets, that other person to get your visas, your family who will watch your kids, your family who will keep an eye on your house, your agency, your social worker because she forgot to send you something, your bank so they don't think your debit card has been stolen when it's used in 3 countries in 10 days, your other bank to order foreign currency, yet ANOTHER bank to get new or like new bills, your phone provider so your phone will work in country, and the list goes on, and on...

And then there is packing. And list making. And chaos. 

 This is the notebook where the lists live

 This is the wallet where money used to live

 This is the checkbook that wrote around $10,000 in checks, so far. Yes I know I'm like a 12 year old with my Hello Kitty checks but I bet I'm also the only person who has paid for an international adoption with Hello Kitty checks which makes me awesome.

and this...this is the money that did not make the "like new" cut upon further inspection, and is currently on it's way back to the bank with my husband for a swap out. :)

Oh! and there is the matter of gifts and donations...these two things are the ONLY things in our checked bag. We want to hook the kiddos up as much as possible! Now, for a look inside the bag!

 The toys we're bringing for Kenzi to play with, we'll be leaving them at the orphanage for all the kids when we leave.

 The toy I bought specifically for Kenzi, because it's a Mama owl hugging her baby owl <3 She also has a blanket that is specifically for her and an owl taggy blankie that my dear friend Karly made for Kenzi-her first hand made gift. <3 The owl toy and the owl taggy are going to come home with us, we'll take them back when we have our court date, maybe Kenzi will remember them!

 We're making a gift basket for the orphanage workers. We were told that everyone loves Starbucks coffee, American chocolate, and they don't have peanut butter but they love it! They also really like tea, so we're putting a little bit of everything in the basket for them.

 For individual gifts, they're about the same, just on a smaller scale. One has chocolate and coffee...

 The other has chocolate and tea

 We're bringing lots of medicine and first aid stuff this trip

 I found mitten clips on clearance for $0.50 each so I bought them all...there are about 40 sets in this bag LOL...winter will be here before we know it! I'm going to look around for children's mittens to go with them too if I have time!

 Lots and lots of vitamins!

 This is the photo book we're bringing Kenzi. It is filled with pictures of our family, our house, our neighborhood, etc.

and last but not least...this is the photo book I had made for our MOE appointment. I want to leave this one with Kenzi because it's nicer, but I also want to make sure we get it back so she can keep it forever...so it probably isn't safe to leave it. :( I made sure all the same pictures are in her book though. :)

So there you have it! Our adoption in a photographic nutshell...so far! I don't know if I'll have time to blog again before we leave, but I will DEFINITELY post pictures of the princess while we're there!

Please pray for us to have safe travels. We are surprisingly calm about the trip, I'm not the least bit scared, which is weird for me because I'm scared of everything... :) I hate to fly but I'll deal with it...and our boys are beside themselves excited about getting away from us and spending time in Chicago with Nana so that helps a lot...knowing they don't care that we're leaving! LOL

Bye for now!! 

Love, 

Cilla

Photo dump

I've never done a photo dump...but here goes! A peek into my little world through iPhone photos :)

Hello, Insanity...it's me, Cilla :)

So, as you may have heard, or read...we are officially booked for our first trip to meet Miss Sassy Pants!! I nearly had a coronary, and I still might, but we have plane tickets, and our passports arrived in DC for our visas, and we might even get them back back before we leave the country (heh...ooh dear, those chest pains are back...)...so, one step closer!


Those of you who know me well are either shaking your head thinking "oh God no...please tell me she isn't trying to organize this trip..." or maybe you've stopped reading altogether and are on your way to the nearest church to light a candle and pray...but I swear I've got this!!! LOL...I'm actually being organized, like *really* organized, I'm making lists, I'm checking them twice, and I'm asking an obnoxious amount of questions, my fellow adopting sistah's can vouch for that one! I'm feeling very confident that I know what I'm doing, and anything I forget, I'm going to blame on David and swear that was the ONE thing I asked him to do...he's gettin' old ya know, he won't remember if I really asked him to do it or not so I'm totally covered! :)


I'm also blissfully naive about the travel experience. I know I'll be jet lagged, but we're going to Hong Kong AND Beijing on this journey, how could I not be super stoked?! True, I won't be leaving the international terminal in either place, but still...it's going to be fun! I'm really excited to get to her country too, it's going to be great! I can't even think about how amazing it's going to be to meet Kenzi the first time...omgosh I am so in love with this little blonde sweetheart! I might burst when I see her. :) 


It isn't often that we get snippy comments about our adoption, it seems that for the most part either people are happy for us, or they've just learned to zip it because they aren't going to change our minds, but once in a while a little old bitty will say something snarky. This lady kind of sneered at me when she overheard me talking to someone else about our adoption and said, "yeah? and what are you going to do if you get all the way over there, and the kid don't even like you? huh? then what are you going to do? you wasted all that money and they kid might not even like you!"


...I paused for a moment...just staring at her and finally said "if she doesn't like me, that means she'll fit right in with brothers, all the more proof she was meant to be my daughter!" 


(she didn't like my answer)


I mean really, is that what we're supposed to gauge our decision to accept the referral for our kid or not? "She didn't act like she liked me..." um...her life has sucked, I don't expect her to like me, or anyone else, and rightly so for a while...plus I have 2 boys, one who is 9 and testing boundaries and one who is 2 testing boundaries...I'll be very comfortable in an environment where the kid present DOES NOT LIKE ME! :)


I'm only bummed about one thing: missing our spaghetti dinner. I hope it goes well, and I know the execution of it is in very capable hands, but still...I would have loved to be there! I hope people take lots of pics for me to look at from "across the pond".


That's it for now, as always...thank you so much for your love, support, and prayers. Clearly we would not be to this point without our amazing friends who have helped us so much!!! We have a long way to go til we cross the finish line and bring our little girl home, and we need about $7500 more to be fully funded, so please consider a donation to our FSP...if you feel so inclined! It's tax deductible and Kenzi would be very grateful!!! <3


Love always, 
Cilla

Daddy's Corner...Oh yeah...this one you want to read

Hello my precious daughter.....Guess what????? Mommy and Daddy are coming to see you!!!!! Oh you did not read that one wrong dear heart...Mommy and Daddy are coming to see you!!!  We've got our dates and our plane tickets are bought...we are just waiting for the big day to come.  I won't tell you the exact date right now because I want you to be surprised when you see us, but know that it is soon and we can't wait to see you.  We love you so much.  We have been praying and praying and praying and our prayers have been answered.  Until that magical day comes when we get to see each other for the first time, keep looking to the moon and the stars and know that your prayers are coming true too.  Mommy and Daddy are on their way!!!
I love you,
Daddy